Online relationship therapy for women and couples in California
Create a close, loving relationship— without losing yourself in the process
“I’m just no good at relationships.”
You are a self-aware person with a big heart, and you know you could be a great partner.
But when you get into a relationship, things get confusing: what’s my stuff, what’s my partner’s? Is my partner just mirroring stuff in myself that I need to heal?
You can’t figure out what you’re doing that is making your partner so upset at you.
Gradually you start to lose touch with what makes you, you. You become a shadow of yourself.
In the end it’s just easier being on your own. You feel stronger and more clear on your own than in a relationship. Except, you really want a partner to do life with.
Relationship therapy can help.
I’m Alegria. Welcome to my therapy practice.
I’m on a mission to help women and their partners disentangle the confusion of their relationships so they can love (and be loved!) in the way that they’ve always known they were capable of.
For most of my life I too found relationships to be confusing and overwhelming.
Books were my safe place growing up— a way to satisfy my bottomless curiosity about humans and how they function, without having to actually interact with any.
In my twenties and thirties, I was a hardcore spiritual seeker. I spent ten years imbibing teachings from my beloved spiritual teacher that turned out to be deeply harmful to my relationships— including my relationship with myself.
Only in my forties did I start to understand how to do relationships in a healthy, respectful, truly loving way.
I specialize in working with women who have had difficult and disempowering relationships in the past—
with a partner
with a parent
with a therapist
with a mentor or spiritual teacher
with a group or community
Together, slowly and gently, we unpack what happened and explore the unprocessed feelings so that you can go into your next relationship with eyes wide open, trusting yourself, and ready for the safe, secure relationship you’ve always wanted.
I also work with queer and straight couples who struggle to find the balance between being together and being true to themselves.
I help you co-create a secure relationship that is a refuge from the chaos of the world, and in which you can both thrive.
A relationship in which you and your partner can safely relax, be your full quirky, imperfect selves, and know that you have each other’s back.