The Art of the I-statement
The key to good arguing is I-statements. They are so crucial to good communication, and yet very few people actually know about them.
Demystify your emotional reactions
Every emotional reaction has a trigger, a physiological response, emotions (some expressed, some hidden), thoughts, and an action or behavior. As you identify these pieces, you’ll notice your relationship to your emotional reactions start to change. They won’t feel so mysterious and irrational anymore. They’ll start to make sense.
The biggest mistakes I made as a therapist trying to help someone in an abusive relationship
Or, how I learned not to misuse my power as a therapist
Your self-blame is hurting not just you, but your relationship too
Self-blame is not the same as taking responsibility.
The math of lasting love: do you know the 5-to-1 ratio?
Positive interactions increase the love and safety in your relationship. The more deliberate you are about creating positive moments with your partner, the more smoothly you will be able to navigate moments of tension together.
Why you are so affected by your partner’s bad moods (and what you can do about it)
You're going to be affected no matter what. But it doesn't have to pull you and your partner apart.
How a little girl becomes a quietly angry woman
Reclaim your anger so you can feel alive again.
11 things I was told about meditation that turned out NOT to be true
It took me 11 years of daily practice to figure this stuff out. Let me save you some time.
Are you the abusive one in your relationship or is it your partner?
Relationships are confusing, and abusive ones even more so. Oftentimes, the abusive partner will genuinely believe they are the victim, and the victim seriously questions if they are being abusive to their partner.
8 ways a good therapist helps you feel safe
It's your therapist's first and most important job to help you feel safe.